There is no such thing as a perfect life. Even though we want to have a perfect life, there is no guarantee that we will be happy in every situation.
There will always be people who are stronger than you.
People who will always defeat you, and those who will always be better than you.
However, most of the time we are unable to face the challenge and choose to give in to those people or situations.
That is what makes us feel like losers.
Sometimes you may feel like there is no hope for you in the world. All you see is your lack of strength and skill.
That is why you need to understand that when you don’t do what you want to do, your life is not going to be complete and fulfilling.
You need to learn to face the things you don’t want to deal with and be ready to appreciate the good things that happen.
If you learn to face your situation better and learn to make it better, then you will be able to grow and progress.
However, you must remember to always do the best that you can, and understand that, giving up on things doesn't make you happy.
Most times you may not achieve your goals, but you will still have to keep going.
The main point here is that no matter what happens to you, there is always something that you can do to be better.
What Is Adversity?
This is a general term for difficult, unpleasant, or threatening circumstances.
What Is A Difficult Situation?
There is no consistent universal definition of ‘difficult’, or of ‘adversity’.
There are a variety of views on the definition of ‘difficult’ and a range of opinions on how adversity can or should be defined.
What we can say with confidence is that in life, ‘difficult’ situations involve risk, difficulty, or uncertainty.
This will vary from person to person and situation to situation, but we have identified the following as common types of difficult situations people experience:
Challenging circumstances: These are when circumstances occur that involve some risk and where people need to manage uncertainty and are likely to be stressful and difficult.
This could involve circumstances where the individual is unsure of their actions, or where a situation involves the possibility of being harmed or injured.
Opportunities:An opportunity is a positive occurrence where the individual can make a positive change to their situation.
An opportunity may be something positive in terms of the way they feel about themselves, their situation, or what they do.
This could also be something that happens to a particular person in a particular situation that may change their outlook on life and the way they behave.
Opportunities often have less risk, are less stressful, and are less complicated than challenging circumstances.
Lack of control: A lack of control occurs when an individual cannot influence the way their life unfolds, or when the individual cannot control situations that affect them.
Difficult emotions:These are feelings of depression, loneliness, low self-esteem, anger, or anxiety.
It is important to note that the emotions a person experiences when they encounter adversity are different from the emotions they may feel when they are being happy or enjoying themselves.
If a person is in an adversity-rich environment and does not experience negative emotions, then the likelihood of depression or anxiety occurring is greatly reduced.
It is possible to recognize difficult situations for the reasons listed above and this might be helpful to a person in their life.
However, in some situations, it is important to recognize situations that are problematic because they are potentially threatening to a person’s well-being.
For example, an individual who lives in an unsafe neighborhood, where they are at risk of being harassed, assaulted, or injured, may need to be alert to these situations to remain safe.
This can be problematic in some situations but is helpful in others.
What Is A Threat To Wellbeing?
An adversity-rich environment will always have its challenges.
However, some situations have the potential to become dangerous or to be detrimental to a person’s wellbeing.
A threat to wellbeing is when the risk of negative experiences occurring to a person is much greater than their experience of positive and rewarding experiences, or the experiences they want to have.
In this post, all I want to share with you is how you can turn adversity and difficult circumstances into success.
How To Turn Your Adversity Into Success.
Here are some simple tips to help you face your problems and turn your adversity into success.
1. Focus On The Things You Like.
When you are upset, it is easy to get confused and lose focus. You need to know what makes you happy.
Start with the things you like to do. If you are not interested in those things, then it is okay to focus on the things that you love.
Find and Focus on the things that make you happy and you will find it hard to become upset and miserable if your goals are not in sight.
It is important to realize that you have control over your own life.
You can’t blame other people for what you do and what you don’t.
You are the only one who can change your life.
When you focus on those things that you like, it will be easy to make a change for the better.
2. Always Make Your Best Effort.
You must realize that there are people who will always be better than you.
You will be outsmarted, outspent, and outgunned. If you are a parent, it will even be harder to teach your children.
In all walks of life, some people are stronger, faster, and better.
However, you should. not get discouraged because you will always take steps and make an effort to do your best.
At the end of the day, you are still not one of the best.
That is why you need to work harder than others to come up with something better.
3. Always Ask For Help.
To turn your adversity into success, you must learn to ask for help.
No matter what you are doing, you will always need help at some point.
If you are hoping to start your own business, then you will always need help from people who know how to begin and do business.
So, you should know how to ask for help, whenever you feel incapable or helpless.
However, you should also be careful whom you ask for help.
If you are asking for the wrong help, it will only make your life harder.
There is nothing wrong with asking for help. But, you should know that you can only get help from a trusted person.
You can’t just ask your friends and acquaintances for help.
To get help from a person, you need to know them better.
If you do that, then you will have a better chance of getting the help that you need.
4. Always Remember To Take Time For Yourself.
When you are busy all the time, it is easy to forget to take time for yourself.
You need to take time for yourself.
This means you ought to care for yourself.
Because if you don’t take time for yourself, then you will feel less motivated to achieve your goals.
And you will become even less productive.
No matter how hard your situation is, it is always okay to take a break sometimes.
You need to make sure that you will always be ready to give the best of yourself.
If you don’t take time for yourself, then you will never be ready to make changes.
5. Learn To Think Positive.
You can’t blame bad things on other people. Everything that happens in your life is a result of your choices and actions.
If you choose to act in a certain way, then that will be the result.
That is why you must learn to keep your mind positive.
And you will need to look at your situation positively.
You will need to take the good with the bad.
When you do that, you will always find a way to turn your situation in your favor.
6. Be Compassionate.
We all experience setbacks in life. And this is the reason you can’t avoid the fact that things will never go smoothly all the time.
However, you can control how you react to the things that you are going through.
If you choose to act like an absolute monster when you are going through a difficult time, then it will be very hard to turn things around for the good.
But if you truly want to make it easy for yourself, you should try to be compassionate.
Learn to be kind to others who are going through the same thing as you.
If you can always be compassionate to others, then you will always get help and support from people.
In turn, when you are compassionate, you will find it easier to turn your situation in your favor.
You will feel better about yourself and your situation.
7. Never Make Anyone Your Enemy.
If you want to turn your adversity into success, then you need to learn to keep your friends close and your enemies closer.
You must always know the difference between friends and the people who hate you.
There will always be haters in the world. No matter what you do, you will always get people who will want to hurt you.
However, you don’t have to allow that to happen.
So, you must always take time to read books and listen to music and learn to appreciate people who appreciate you.
Instead of hating them, you should try to make them your friends.
8. Don’t Forget To Live In The Present.
When you don’t look at your situation as a failure or set, but as a challenge, then you are not going to make things any better.
You are not going to make the situation better by thinking about what could be.
Instead of thinking about what could be, you need to live in the present.
You have to learn to live in the moment. When you think about the future, you will always have regrets.
But if you can live in the present, you will be less likely to have regrets.
9. Learn To Say Thank You.
Sometimes we can be too busy to say thank you.
We are always too worried about the future to realize the fact that we should be grateful.
However, you don’t have to be a good friend to say thank you. You just need to start and then keep doing that.
You don’t have to wait for someone to compliment you.
Whenever you can give a compliment, you will be able to learn something new.
So, whenever you are in a position to appreciate others, then make sure to do it.
The fact is that when you give a compliment or appreciate the other person you can make their day more joyful when they feel appreciated.
10. Be Grateful For What You Have.
We tend to be too busy focusing on what we don’t have in life instead of what we do have.
However, there is no need to complain about things that you have or don't have in life.
If you can do that, then you will be able to learn from those things that you have in life.
Because You will always be able to see that everything happens for a reason.
Consequently, when you focus on the things that you do have in your life, you will find it easier to keep your positive attitude and be more grateful for them.
11. Don’t Be A People-Pleaser.
Whenever you are asked to do something for someone else, it is always easy to be a people-pleaser.
You are afraid to offend people. You don’t want to hurt someone else’s feelings.
That is why you are always afraid to say no.
However, if you are going to keep saying no, there is a chance that you will never learn anything new.
Instead, you will always be the same person.
And when you are the same person every time, you won't be able to grow and develop.
But if you can say yes, you will feel better about yourself.
Moreover, if you say no, you will have to face the fact that you don’t have anything to say.
People will think that you are not doing anything or that you are not interested in the matter.
You will be the one who is always having to apologize for your wrong choices and decision. You simply should learn to be yourself and not a people pleaser.
I don't know too many ways to success but one sure path to failure I can vouch of is,trying to please everyone.
If you are mean about changing or ensuring your challenges end in success, then you must stop being a people-pleaser.
You must be firm in your decisions and make sure that you say no when you need to.
You must be a person who does the right thing and this is the most valuable thing that you can ever be.
So, whatever you decide to do, don’t be afraid to say no.
12. Try To Smile Always.
Whenever you can smile, you will always be a happy person.
If you smile every day, then you will always be able to boost your mood. You will definitely feel more productive and happier.
When you feel happy and productive, you will be able to improve yourself.
You learn so much from smiling. People are generally not the ones who are going to help you.
However, you can always find a way to smile at your situation no matter the height of the challenge.
The fact is that whenever you can smile, you will discover a lot about yourself.
13. Learn To Love Yourself.
You must stop treating or seeing yourself as a burden or the problem.
Instead, you should always be kind to yourself and learn to appreciate yourself. If you start to do that, you will feel better about yourself.
And it will help spur you and make you feel more motivated to live your life.
14. Don’t Be Afraid To Ask For Help.
When you require help, you must be able to ask for it.
There is nothing wrong with asking for help. However, you must make sure that you can ask for the right help.
You don’t need to worry about people’s feelings.
You just need to make sure that you can ask for the right help. It is okay to ask for help.
But you must never ask for help from people who don’t know what they are doing.
It is better to ask for help from people who know what they are doing. So, always ask for help from those with clear and focused.
Ensure the one you need help from understands your position and is willing to support you in your situation.
Conclusion
life is thick grown with thorns, you don't have any other choice than going through it
Adversity and challenges are part of life.
They are the raw materials for the making of a champion. In every boxing challenge, only one person emerges as a winner, but then he must fight to win.
Success doesn't just happen, you must conceive it, believe it and also pursue it, there are actions and battles to fight and win on your quest for success.
And this list will do you a lot of help if you adopt them.
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