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Have you ever noticed that some people in life seem to have the confidence to take charge, to control their destiny, to make their luck?
For them, life is easy. There is a natural ease and confidence about them, and most often it's the people who have had difficult things in life that exude this confidence and seem more in control.
Of course, there's a flip side to this too, because it's also a fact that people who go through life with no confidence at all often wind up at the back of the bus, with no confidence.
So what is it about naturally confident people that make them so?
I think you could make a whole book (or several books!) about how confidence is a key ingredient to living a happy, healthy, rich, successful life, and I'm sure you've all heard that kind of thing before.
So what's the point of listing all of that here?
So here are a few things that I have discovered are the primary ingredients to having confidence.
If you're reading this, you've likely been reading all the advice on the web, but hopefully, the main thing that will change here is the context and that it's more specific to your own experience as an individual.
These are all things that I have lived, and in some cases failed, and learned from.
But I've come to find that they don't just apply to one or two areas, they apply to all areas of our lives.
So, no matter your current level of confidence, you're sure to pick up something new from reading them.
1. Take Charge
When we take charge of our own lives, we can affect our own lives in a way that very few people can, simply because we can be and do whatever we want to be and do.
Being in charge means having the ability to stand up for ourselves, to say no when we don't want to do something, and to be and do the things we know are right and true for ourselves.
This doesn't mean being a selfish person, by any means, but it does mean that you're willing to say "no" to people and things that aren't right for you and "yes" to people and things that are right for you, and are doing it for you, not for them.
The other main thing here is not just having the courage to stand up for what you want, but having the skills, knowledge, and experience to be able to get your way, and achieve that.
It's what we teach on the "Success Free Born " platform, as well as other opportunities we have to teach outside of here, in courses and presentations. This also comes with a lot of experience and a lot of learning.
2. Take Responsibility
When you're in charge, you get to take responsibility for your own life.
Not only do you get to set your own rules and take charge of your actions, but you have to also face the consequences of those actions this is a huge way to build confidence.
If you've taken charge of your life, and then you did something that's not the best thing to do, you have to decide whether to accept responsibility for your actions, and you have to do that even when you're blaming someone else for your bad actions.
And once you accept that responsibility, there's also the task of taking responsibility for what you do in the future as well, because that's the only thing you can control.
That's the thing that separates the masters from the people who are just doing it on the way to becoming masters.
And that is the point of life, you see, to do the things that are right and true for you, and to make them your own.
And when we're making things our own, we take responsibility for them, whether they're the things we say, the way we act, or the way we react in a certain situation.
And we also have the ability to control what we do and be responsible for our actions, which gives us the power to control our own lives.
To build confidence, therefore, entails being able to do the needful
3. Focus On The Present
We're always talking about the future and how we're going to be successful, and what we'll do when we're successful, but this tends to make us look to the future.
What you've probably noticed is that, as the days go on and we get closer and closer to the future, our anxiety goes up.
We start looking for that perfect present, to "just be with you right now" and "live in the moment."
So what is best for us, and what's the purpose of life, is to focus on the present, this is one way to build confidence, that’s gradual.
When you're living in the present, you're doing the best things that you can do right now, and you don't have to wait for the future to make you happy.
You're living the life that you want right now, because you have the skills and the knowledge to do it, and you're taking responsibility for your own life.
And what's right for you is, simply, what you feel in your body right now.
In This life, we must learn a practice that involves focusing on the "why".
This is because when we understand the "why" we're here, and understand the role that we have in this world, the world of emotions.
The role we play in influencing and creating our destiny is when we're focused on the why we're living a life that feels amazing, and is fulfilling and happy.
4. Trust Yourself
Now what I mean by this is two things. The first is that we all make mistakes, but that isn't necessarily the best way to make mistakes.
What's best is to do what you feel is right, regardless of what anyone else tells you, or what any situations tell you.
The second thing is that, when we're in a place of self-confidence, there's a sense of self-trust.
When we're willing to do what we want to do and be able to do what we want to do, we don't need to worry about what someone else might think of us, or what anyone else's opinion is.
We just do what we want, and follow our hearts and our instincts.
Of course, being able to follow our instincts is part of what it means to have confidence, but not being afraid to do it and not relying on other people's advice in the process, when we're in a place of self-trust.
When we're in a place where we can do what we want, and make our own decisions, we don't need to worry about what other people think or say. We just do what we feel is right.
So, when we're in a place of self-trust, we can make our own decisions and choose our path.
And I think the place that we build or get our confidence from most is our self-trust.
Because we have to trust ourselves to make our own decisions, we know we're going to make the right decision, even if other people don't agree, even if other people say that it's not the right thing to do.
And when we're confident enough to be able to trust ourselves, we have a sense of self-trust that doesn't depend on anyone else.
5. Accept That Failure Is Part Of Success
If you accept that you're not going to be perfect at everything, but that you're going to be okay with making mistakes and learning from those mistakes, you can't make it into life with regrets and guilt.
You have to accept that making mistakes is a part of success. We can't live a life that's full of regret and guilt and shame because of the things that we've failed at and messed up.
But when we accept that we're going to make mistakes and learn from them, we can make room for them in our lives.
So instead of learning from our mistakes as though we have to make a point to learn from them, we learn from them as a natural part of what we're doing.
We realize that we have to do the things that we're good at, that we have to do things that we're not so good at, and that we have to do things we're unsure of.
But by doing them anyway, we build confidence. We learn from our mistakes, and we learn from other's mistakes too.
So we become the person that we want to be, and we become a master of our world.
6. Have Faith
Now I'm not a religious person, but I have faith that there's more to life than what we see around us.
I have faith that life is going somewhere, that there is a purpose, and that we're all going somewhere, whether it's on the road to hell or to heaven.
When we're living a life that doesn't seem to be fulfilling or happy, what we do is we look to the future, we look to the end of our life, or we look to the end of our relationship, and we think about what's going to happen after that.
We learn to have greater expectations and to visualize how we want things to be. This is an awesome way to build confidence.
And it's that constant thought about what's going to happen after this that can cause us problems.
It's not even that we don't want to think about the future.
We know we should, we know we can't live this way.
But when we focus on the end of our life, it's the end of this life, and we're looking to the future, so we can get stuck in what might be.
But faith tells us that life isn't going to be perfect, and it's not going to be easy.
Life is full of problems and hurdles, but we're not going to be here forever.
If you understand the concept of life as something that has a purpose, and you understand that we're not going to be around forever, you realize that we have to live each day as if it's the last.
We have to live as if our lives could end at any moment, because, when we do, it gives us a sense of urgency, a sense of urgency to make each day something that we want to be remembered.
7. Focus On Yourself
This doesn't mean that we're all going to do this all the time.
It doesn't entail that we're all going to spend our whole lives doing this.
Sometimes we have to take some other things into account. But one thing that you must always be mindful of is yourself.
We all think about others, we think about what our partner or our family, and friends might think of us, but when you are mindful of yourself, and what you're going to do about life, it's all about you.
Because You're the one that needs to be confident here, and to be something in life, it's all centered on you.
And you're the one who makes the decisions and the one who decides what's right for you.
When you're doing all of this for yourself, and by focusing on what you want to do, and to be, you can't be distracted by anyone else's opinions or what anyone else is doing.
8. Take Control
And when we're focused on ourselves, and what we want to do, we're the only ones who can control ourselves.
We can't control what others think of us, we can't control what situations we're in, or who we're with.
We can't control what our relationships are like. But when we focus on our self-confidence and take charge of our own life, it doesn't matter what anyone else does.
You're the one who controls your destiny.
So you're always the one that has a say in what you're doing.
And, of course, we know that some people seem to have an easy time doing this, and others seem to have a harder time doing this.
But what we can always do is keep at it, and keep working on ourselves, until we can build the confidence to take control of our lives, and to be our masters.
And to be the most successful people that we can possibly be.
And you know what? When we start to work on it, it becomes easier and easier. And the good thing is, it feels amazing. You're living your life as a master.
Conclusion
You build your confidence by knowing and believing in who you are and what you are capable of.
You know your limits, but you also know that you can step up to them.
This leads to a lot of confidence. Building your confidence can lead to incredible, monumental change in your life.
And if you want to know the power of confidence, you need to know what it does for the people around you.
For the people who don’t have confidence in themselves, you can be their best friend.
When you have confidence in yourself, you can change someone’s life.
The list we have seen will help you build your confidence and change your life for the best.
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